I saw this question on Instagram by relationship preparation educator April Mason this morning and it sparked my curiosity. I really want to know your thoughts on this question as I am going to give my two scents by my personal experience.
Honestly, I know who my purpose mate is. However, there was a time where I didn't want him to be.
Why? you ask.....
Well, I did not want him to be my purpose mate simply because I felt as though I ran out of love for him. I felt like the spark that was once there vanished. I felt as though I hadn't lived my life completely to be with just "one" man. I wanted to explore. I wanted to know if there was a better man out there for me besides him. I wanted to know if I could meet a man that respected me, cherished me, had my back, never gave up on me, spoiled me, took care of the household and sexed me down better than him.
Sadly to say, most of these men out here aren't shit. Matter of fact, most of them can't deal with me the way my purpose mate deals with me. Most of them are selfish, lazy, do not know how to hustle, do not take care of their responsibilities, and want a woman to take care of them. and not reciprocate. Not to mention the drama. Most of them had to much drama going on in their lives.
See, I agree with April when she spoke about women/men that "subconsciously gravitate toward people who have a lot of drama, foolishness and confusion going on in their lives".
At one point in time, I use to be that girl whom loved to be around drama, even though I acted as if I hated it. By my surroundings and my attitude, you could tell that I was a drama queen. To be honest, I was so into drama and hate that when my purpose mate entered my life and refused to leave, I felt uncomfortable. I felt uncomfortable the way he held me, desired me, appreciated me, caressed me, took care of me, respected me, cared for me, loved me and how much he had my back. I felt uncomfortable with all of the great things he brought into my life. I felt uncomfortable with how much we were meant for each other. For some reason, I felt as though he was too perfect for me and he deserved someone better than me.
It took a long time for me to realize that he is the man God chose for me. I did not have to choose him. Matter of fact, in my article "You can't choose a man, he has to choose you", I explain what this means.
Maybe you are the kind of person that gravitate toward the needy. Once they get stable, they don't need your service anymore. Or maybe you gravitate toward aggressiveness and violence. Whatever the case is, if you are gravitating toward negativity, it is time to change "you", because you are who you attract.
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