My boyfriend blocked me on Facebook after an argument, what should I do?

So, your boyfriend blocked you on Facebook and you are sitting wondering what to do. First of all, if I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about it.  I will tell you why.

Before I get into detail and all into the mushy emotional stuff. Let me just bring out a scenario so that you can overstated me a little bit more.

Let's just say for instance:

You and your boyfriend are on the phone and the conversation is going smooth. There is laughter and there are jokes being said. You guys are talking on politics and what movies to watch next. Then, you guys get on the subject of money and how much you need it and what steps that will be taken to get more of it. All of a sudden, he tells you that you're crazy and starts laughing jokingly. So you ask him, "why you say that? I',m not crazy. I just be putting you on blast by speaking my mind". Then he goes on and say that you be tripping for no reason. Then gives an example of when you started tripping on him last week about him not wanting to talk on the phone.

And you know where this conversation is going. So both of you go back and forth. Both of you start brining up things from two weeks to months ago. Then it really starts getting fired up in the conversation. All of a sudden, he hangs up on you. All of a sudden you realize that he blocks you on Facebook and you're looking like hmmmm, okay.

I bet you want to call him and ask him why he blocked you on Facebook, right? Or do you want to be petty and block his number?

Either way it goes, don't do none of these. I'll tell you why.

Let Him Be

First of all, any man you are dating that blocks you on social media because of an argument is a bitch. I'm just sorry. He is not a real man, because a real man knows how to communicate with his woman. And if he is the type that always blocks you and others on Facebook, then add you back when things are good, then he is definitely the problem. Him blocking you is not very mature and shows that he doesn't care about you too much.

If he is quick to avoid conflict and not face it, it shows that he will always avoid problems and not face them when it comes to you, family and friends. This is the kind of man that jumps from person to person, friends to friends, family to family because he isn't man enough to handle things accordingly. He sticks around when things are sweet, then disown you as if he never met you when things get sour.

A man like this is manipulating and probably never see's what he did or does wrong, but what others do or did to him.

I don't care what the argument is about. I don't care who's fault it is, you simply do not block someone on social media or the phone if you truly care about them or love them. Fights happen, so talk about it and deal with it.

Just let him be!

If you know for a fact that you want to get married one day and your boyfriend handles your mistake or arguments Nobody is perfect, including him. You need a man that doesn't overreact over a simple question, answer or conversation. You don't need a man that freaks out and curse at you or disrespects you and blocks you on social media or the phone everytime he gets mad or annoyed by you.

I'm just being honest! Just like Future, you want a future, so leave him.

Leave His Ass 

Become unavailable to him . When he adds you back on social media or phone. Do not respond to his texts nor accept his friend request.  If he truly cares and loves you, trust me, he will freak out and do whatever it takes to get you back. He will do things that he doesn't normally do. He will even tell you that he will never block you again. And if you take him back and he does block you again, then you know for sure it's not going to work, because you do not need a man who acts in a passive aggressive manner.

Any more questions? Leave your comment below.

5 Definite Ways on How to Keep Him Crazy About Me

Getting him is the easy part, but to keep him interested, well that is another part that not so many women seem to get. In this article, I will tell you how to keep him crazy about you.

Hmm, let me see. I've been there before maybe two or three times. Honestly speaking, I sometimes wonder how is it that he's so in love with me or it is not really true that he is interested because .... let's face it, I'm difficult. Besides that, am I really that interesting?

Okay, truth of the matter is that I am interesting. I am worth someone loving. I am beautiful, and most important I am myself.

You see, that's just it..... YOU HAVE TO BE YOURSELF!

Let me explain.

5 Definite Ways on How to Keep Him Crazy About You

• Well, the first advice is to be yourself. Nobody wants to be around someone that is fake or tries to be something they're not. When you are yourself, you are giving the other person a piece of you and your world. You are inviting that person to the authentic you. And that my friend is something very interesting. So, no matter if you're goofy, funny, crazy, boring, or weird, when you give him the real you, he has the option to take it or leave it, no second guessing. 

• The second advice is to be spontaneous. Okay, we all know when we first meet a guy, we try our best to be fun and outside of the box. We try to find lots of things to do, right? Well, truth is, you don't have to spend tons of money to be spontaneous. You can still be yourself while being spontaneous. For example, I am into poetry and art. So, if I were to meet a guy, I would definitely take him to an art museum or to a poetry cafe or I may show him some of my paintings that I've done. Shoot, I may even get some blank canvas's from Walmart, paint brushes and some paint and we will paint together. 

This is what being spontaneous is all about. It's about thinking outside of the box while still being yourself. A lot of women may believe that being spontaneous is all about being sexy, for example making up a dance move to a song to dance for him for his birthday, but honey, that's not all to it. Yes, that will definitely get his penis aroused and get him super excited, but that's not all to it when it comes to being spontaneous.

• The third advice is to be classy, but also a freak.  You've heard of the term, "I want a lady that's freaky in the bed"? Well, to keep him interested, you have to be classy in public, but a freak with only him. I'm not here to brag, but when people first see me, my swag is always low key, seductive, sexy and beautiful. It's almost as if I'm mysterious, especially when I'm with a large crowd. When I dress up, I go an extra mile (that's just my personality) . The flip side of this is that, when you really get to know me, I'm talkative, not quiet and I''m quite freaky if I really like you. 

• The fourth advice is to not be a gold digger but a goal digger. Did you read that correctly? If not, go back and read it again. A guy will go crazy over a woman that is about her business and have goals, not just looking for a hand out. 

• The fifth advice is to allow him to be hisself. You'd be surprised at how all men have a shield over their body when they first meet a woman. The idea is for the women to help them take off the shield piece by piece. How can she do that? Well, a man has to trust you in order to feel like he can take off his shield so that you can see the real him. Once you take off his entire suit, that's when you know you've got him. 

There you have it! What are your thoughts on this list? Are you ready to get him more crazy about you? Then you have to check out "Girl Get's Ring". 

You can't choose a man, he has to choose you

You can't choose a man, he has to choose you. Do not get this statement confused with a man proposing to you, you not proposing to him. They are totally different. I will explain.

It is a known fact that men fall deeper than women do. So wouldn't you want to be the woman he falls deeply in love with?

Here is the thing. If you choose a man, there is a slight chance he will not love you, cherish you, admire you, and treat you the way he would treat the woman that he absolutely chooses to love, cherish, admire, and be with. He will more than likely treat you like an option or a side chick.

You know what I mean, because I'm sure you've been through this before and it SUCKS doesn't it?

I see it all of the time. You rush into relationships because you the fact of being "alone". You wonder if you will ever FIND A MAN to love you. Uh... stop right there.

This is where you mess up.

What you do want is for your PURPOSE MAN TO FIND YOU".

Women are Goddesses and men are kings. Haven't you watched Aladdin or any other king or queen love stories? The king always finds his wife. It's not the other way around. Now, whether he proposes to her is a different story (I might write about this later), but you know the difference between a man deeply in love and a man that just messes around.

The energy is different. His words are different. His attitude is different. His actions are different. You don't need to be a scientist to know that the energy doesn't lie and the action definitely doesn't lie.

For me, I rather be with a man that loves me more than I love him. The realness of his love and appreciation of me is just surreal. It's authentic and genuine. And I never have to wonder or fight my thoughts on thinking if he truly loves me and am i the only one he is with.

When a man chooses you, it's 100/100 in a relationship. You build each other up even through the worse. You pray for each other. You treat each other with respect and appreciate each other through words and actions. There will never be a slight thought that he is cheating or whether or not he's using you. Both of you will use each other in ways that better one another. He will make it known that he chooses you, only you. If you just met or been dating for a month or so, he will let go of all of his other chics, just for you.

This is the key if ya'll just started dating.

Now, to keep him interested and to keep on choosing you is another ball game. T-Dub's 30 minute video kind of gives you the rope on how to do that. But you must be willing to sit and watch for 30 minutes. Are you up for it? Here it is.

If your purpose mate was standing right in front of you, could you recognize them?

If your purpose mate was standing right in front of you, could you recognize them?

I saw this question on Instagram by relationship preparation educator April Mason this morning and it sparked my curiosity. I really want to know your thoughts on this question as I am going to give my two scents by my personal experience.

Honestly, I know who my purpose mate is. However, there was a time where I didn't want him to be.

Why? you ask.....

Well, I did not want him to be my purpose mate simply because I felt as though I ran out of love for him. I felt like the spark that was once there vanished. I felt as though I hadn't lived my life completely to be with just "one" man. I wanted to explore. I wanted to know if there was a better man out there for me besides him. I wanted to know if I could meet a man that respected me, cherished me, had my back, never gave up on me,  spoiled me, took care of the household and sexed me down better than him.

Sadly to say, most of these men out here aren't shit. Matter of fact, most of them can't deal with me the way my purpose mate deals with me. Most of them are selfish, lazy, do not know how to hustle, do not take care of their responsibilities, and want a woman to take care of them. and not reciprocate. Not to mention the drama. Most of them had to much drama going on in their lives.

See, I agree with April when she spoke about women/men that "subconsciously gravitate toward people who have a lot of drama, foolishness and confusion going on in their lives".

At one point in time, I use to be that girl whom loved to be around drama, even though I acted as if I hated it. By my surroundings and my attitude, you could tell that I was a drama queen. To be honest,  I was so into drama and hate that when my purpose mate entered my life and refused to leave, I felt uncomfortable. I felt uncomfortable the way he held me, desired me, appreciated me, caressed me, took care of me, respected me, cared for me, loved me and how much he had my back. I felt uncomfortable with all of the great things he brought into my life. I felt uncomfortable with how much we were meant for each other. For some reason, I felt as though he was too perfect for me and he deserved someone better than me.

It took a long time for me to realize that he is the man God chose for me. I did not have to choose him. Matter of fact, in my article "You can't choose a man, he has to choose you", I explain what this means.

Maybe you are the kind of person that gravitate toward the needy. Once they get stable, they don't need your service anymore. Or maybe you gravitate toward aggressiveness and violence. Whatever the case is, if you are gravitating toward negativity, it is time to change "you", because you are who you attract.

How to increase chemistry in your relationship

Think chemistry in relationships is something that “just happens?” If you do, the truth might surprise you. Sure, you probably can’t create chemistry where none exists, but if that initial spark is there, there’s plenty you can do to fan the flames.

Understand what chemistry is!

If you’ve never really felt strong chemistry with another person, it can be hard to get an idea of what it is. What most people call chemistry is a sense that the two of you are just meant to be together. You’re both perfectly at ease with each other and have a strong physical attraction for each other. While it might have something to do with looks and pheromones, most of it is mental. It comes from you and your sweetie having the same beliefs, dreams, and maybe even habits and pet peeves.

Develop a rapport!

Before you can build up any chemistry, you need to have a good rapport first. If you’ve only seen each other for one or two dates, that rapport may not quite be there yet. To create it, look for a conversation topic you can really bond over. Just make sure it’s something pleasant and low-stress, though. You may discover you both love discussing ways to end famine in Africa, but that subject doesn’t help your partner associate you with pleasure and fun.

Use humor!

Laughter is not only fun, it also makes us feel at ease with another person. You don’t have to be a professional comedian. Even an attempt at humor in your own style can work. Just keep it clean and neutral so you don’t offend your date right off the bat.

Adrenaline is your friend!

Studies have shown that couples who met in an exciting situation—whether pleasurable or not—tend to find each other more attractive. More so than couples who met under normal circumstances. It works because the mind associates any excitement with the person we’re with at the time and mistakes it for physical attraction. Make use of this by planning a date that will get the adrenaline pumping like a scary movie, a rollercoaster ride, or even whitewater rafting.

Express yourself!

You can’t have chemistry in relationships with people who don’t know the real you. Instead of keeping your opinions to yourself in hopes of hiding anything your partner might not like about you, make it a point to share your thoughts and feelings about important issues. Sometimes just a single off-hand comment can make your date fall for you hard.

Enhance the physical!

Some tips for how to increase chemistry in relationships will tell you to touch your date on the knee or arm early on. You want to be careful with that, though. Get physical too early on and you could just end up turning your partner off. Instead, start by just talking about what physical features you each find most attractive in the opposite sex and then using the info you gain to your advantage.

Chemistry in relationships may be mysterious and hard to control, but that doesn’t mean you can’t help it along a little. Make sure you start with a good rapport, throw in a little humor and excitement and you’ll be off to a good start.

Get what you want from your man

You will be surprise at how the way you say things will convince your man to listen to what you have to say. That little voice that you have must be direct and strong enough for him to listen or take you serious. Too many relationships are in trouble, because the man doesn’t want to open up and you don’t know how to say what you want. Truth is, the man does want to open up, and he is actually dying to open up.

The only reason he’s not opening up is because somewhere along the conversation is miscommunication.  Are you struggling with communication with your man? Have your tried everything to get him to open up to you?  If so, I may be able to help.

I don’t know of the methods you have used to get try to get your man to open up, but it’s obvious he hasn’t changed. “What am I doing wrong” you ask? The problem is that you have found your voice. What voice am I talking about Saytue? Let me explain it to you.

Let’s say for instance you and your man are at the crib and you want him to give you some money to go shopping. What are you going to say? How are you going say it? These are the types of questions you should be asking yourself. Are you going to say in the middle of him watching the Ravens , “can I get $150”? That’s not going to work, because first of all he’s watching his favorite Football team, so he is not paying you any attention.  For two, all he hears is $150, so he definitely not going to hear you.

Ok, a second example. Let’s say both of you are home in the bed chilling about to go to sleep. As you get in bed, you start a conversation by asking him how his day went at work, school, or whatever. As you guys are talking, you bring up your day and tell him how it went. As you continue talking, you ask him, “Baby, can I get $150. I really want these new pair of shoes , but I don’t have it like that right now”.  What do you think his answer will be? More than likely, he will say yes, because you had a conversation with him and you were direct about what you had to say.

See, whenever you come off to guy like you’re hiding something and not direct, you will never get what you want. Same as when having an argument, you cannot be shy to voice your opinion about something with your man. Having that voice is what makes conversation juicy. Learn to have a voice and I promise you, you will get him to open up.

How to get him to open up emotionally

Do you want to get your man to open up emotionally?

I admit, it is kind of hard to get a man to open up. I say that because I see a lot of girls struggling with it. I don’t have this problem, but that’s not to say that I’m perfect. It just means that I am here to help you get your man to open up to you.

Getting a man to open up is like one of the best feelings in the world. It shows that he trusts you enough to tell you some of his biggest secrets, fears, and passion about things. And let’s face it, it also shows that he love us enough to give his all into communicating.

The way a guy talks to his woman and the way he talks to his guys is totally different. When your man talks to his friends, his friends are more playful, rough, direct, and most importantly, they have a tone that wakes him up.

Having a soft spoken voice isn’t always the best way, sometimes you have to have that base and directness to get your point across the way you want it. It is so funny, because I was talking to my fiancé yesterday about his friends and he was saying how one of his friends never sits still. It’s like he has to get up and do something. He even stands up and talks, and pace around like he’s in jail or something. And I was telling him about my father and how he’s always on the go, because he’s a business man. Then, he starts laughing and tells me that I’m one of his homies, and I immediately started giggling, because I knew exactly what that meant.

See, when a guy tells his woman that she’s one of his homies, that’s a big deal. That means that you are speaking to him just like how his friends talk to him and that makes him interested in listening to what you have to say. It’s like ya’ll two are best friends. This is how you want your relationship to be with your man. In order to get your man to open up, you have to talk to him the way his friends talk to him. This is what you do; pay attention to how he and his boys talk. You will be surprise at how they say things, when they say things and what they say to each other.